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Create with the world:

embrace the power of shaping change

 

How you expand into presence, under stress

 

"The times are urgent: let us slow down" - Bayo Akomolafe
 

We are all living in times of rapid change, uncertainty and global polycrises. With AI's proliferation, Tech professionals are in a unique challenge of your own, where its not clear where the industry will go and what that might mean for your future...

 

But may be, YOU want to go somewhere that is not on the trajectory of fast growth fascist capitalism gobbling up earth's resources without giving back.

 

May be somewhere that carries that old internet feel where you could lose yourself in a whole new world in an unknown corner of the web...

 

You want to go somewhere wilder... slower... interconnected... safe... nurturing...

 

May be you desire to be somewhere away from a computer where you can breathe and feel your body and remember your creative power...


"Loved this coach! He curated a safe environment for sharing & vulnerability. I felt a sense of being understood at all times throughout, and offered coaching that helped me to tackle some ongoing challenges. Kadir's innate sense of empathy and care is clearly communicated to his clients. And he is the kind of coach that I know will continue to develop and hone his skills, which enables him to grow with his clients. I could not recommend this coach more highly!" — Tiara

 

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Kadir, a brown skinned trans man wearing royal blue shirt with red and yellow floral embroidery facing away from the camera into the pink rhododendrons behind him

My whole life has been a school for change.

 

From studying in 6 different schools to living in four countries.

From being married in a cis-het relationship to coming out as queer then as transgender.

Going through transition and literally molting my skin to reshape myself and birth myself.

 

From growing up as a computer nerd to a decade working in tech as a Software Engineer and leading people as an Engineering Manager...to coaching, writing, tarot and intersectional practice where I birth my own frameworks, books and offerings.

 

Most of the time, change isn't a voluntary choice that we step into. It happens to us. We are rarely ready when it does.

 

When life throws stuff at me, I continue to experience the shock of not wanting to let go of what I thought was mine in order to step into what the change is calling me towards.

 

Sad feelings, tears and grief follow.

Kadir, a brown skinned trans man wearing royal blue shirt with red and yellow floral embroidery looks nostalgically to his left, holding his hands close to his heart in a floral pose
Kadir, a brown skinned trans man wearing royal blue shirt with red and yellow floral embroidery looks into the camera standing under a fig tree and holding the trunk with his arms over his head

What I've noticed from my intentional practice of getting curious about what lives inside...

 

the discomfort, dissociation, shock, shame, worry, anxiety and grief that comes up in the face of major change---is that the more I can sit with it and 

 

be present, the more information my body gives me about my deepest desires.



What if periods of uncertainty and change in your life became profound opportunities for meeting your most creative self?

 

What if we could open ourselves up to the gifts that change can bring, and did not have to hold on so tightly to everything we have today out of fear?

 

How will you become a partner of change?

 

 

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Kadir, a brown skinned trans man wearing royal blue shirt with red and yellow floral embroidery looks into the camera standing under a fig tree arches back in surrender smiling under the trunk with his arms over his head

"One of the reasons I like working with you is that you create space, and you have a way of not including yourself in the narrative, but still being there...But you're able to hold your own self and allow that person to also hold whatever they have or express whatever they have, and you're able to interject without interfering with that person's process and I found that very helpful---because I don't necessarily think it's that we don't know the answers to what we need to do sometimes. I think we need encouragement and the space and the safety to explore those ideas without being talked out of it or talked in a certain direction. Deep down on some level, we already know what we want. We already know what we feel. But maybe we're too afraid to say it. You gave me that space for it to come up." — Sola DaSilva

from the lineage of Octavia E. Butler's Parable of the Sower ("God is Change") and adrienne maree brown's Emergent Strategy, 

my Black feminist worldbuilding education via coaching partnerships with Ayana Zaire Cotton at Seeda School and Ariana Felix,

my 5 year practice at Kolam Creative Collective supporting people through change work, facilitation and coaching to open up to the gifts of their leadership and creativity,

through being with and listening to books, plant medicine, trees, cats, ancestors,

building a deep practice of presence in my body-mind-deepest self,

where I've learned to go towards the gold that lives within what hurts to receive the wisdom of how I bring life back to those places I lost, 

 

I birthed the framework of Transgressive Adaptation,

 

that holds the power of alchemizing your refusal into opportunities for meeting your most creative self,

inspired by the cycles of seed to seedhead that dandelions undergo,

woven with the principles of 

Rootedness,

Sovereignty,

Intentional Transformation and

Nurturance.

This is the framework that powers all my creative and coaching offerings, and that will power our transformative work together in this workshop.

 

Transgressive Adaptation visualization, Copyright Kadir Buvan
Kadir, a brown skinned trans man wearing royal blue shirt with red and yellow floral embroidery smiles, with green trees behind him that are blurred

I'm Kadir Buvan, he/they, transformative coach, writer and change facilitator

and I started this practice in 2021.

I began by offering leadership and career coaching to tech professionals, and over the years this focus has expanded to include politicized art, creative writing, astrology, Tarot, somatics and facilitation.

I am a settler on Coast Salish lands, nestled in the mountains and forests and close to the ocean.

I grew up in TamilNadu, India, and speak தமிழ் Tamil and English. I am caste-privileged. I studied Information Technology as my undergraduate major, and moved from Chennai to New York, San Francisco, then Toronto, working as Software Engineer and then Engineering Manager over my decade of experience in Tech.

Art, leadership, tech, Black feminism, coaching, spiritual practice, divination, earth loving — all feed my practice where I weave these strands into braids of liberation.

"Kadir is a gifted coach and I feel fortunate to have worked with them. Their gentle and warm presence allowed me to quickly feel ready to delve deep into high impact topics that I hadn't felt safe enough to unpack until we partnered together. In our sessions, Kadir held space for me to explore, and offered insights and reflection that unlocked new perspective that continues to have a healing impact on me. I appreciate what this partnership with Kadir brought out in me, and I'm glad to know that others could benefit from their caring and skillful practice." — Sarah-Beth

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How will you become a partner of Change?

 

This is your invitation to tap into the power of your inner guidance through Transgressive Adaptation.

 

A victim of God may,
through learning adaption, 
become a partner of God, 
A victim of God may,
through forethought and planning, 
become a shaper of God.
Or a victim of God may,
through shortsightedness and fear, 
remain God's victim, 
God's plaything, 
God's prey.
- Octavia E. Butler, "God is Change", Parable of the Sower 

Come for the part of you that bring your emotional intelligence and relational skills to support people in working together, despite how hard things are

 

Come for the part of you that was told you weren't senior enough for the job you've already been doing for years

Come for the part of you that shrank when your boss yelled at you

Come for the part of you that quiets in zoom calls because you were told you weren't confident enough, assertive enough

 

Come for the part of you that is too exhausted to complain anymore about how you are treated so you just do the thing

 

Come for the part of you that braces before every performance review

 

Come for the part of you that feels too sick, too Disabled, too depressed, too Brown, too Black, too neurodivergent, too anxious to succeed at work

 

Come for the part of you that feels disliked, ignored, put down, shamed, incompetent, unproductive

Come for the part of you that tries to fight the power and change the system


Come for the part of you that is a menace to people in power, challenging and questioning and pushing and advocating, for yourself and your people


Come for the part of you that is hiding, bubbling with play and joy and creativity under the surface, masking with doubts about whether you are creative enough...

 

Leave with a loving appreciation of the hidden gifts of your inner ecology



With more of your creative energy online

With more trust in your body



It is my honor to hold space with you, and to serve your powerful creative and leadership strengths

Create with the world:

embrace the power of shaping Change

A Transgressive Adaptation workshop where you will learn how you can expand into presence, under stress

This workshop is for you if:

 

* you are a tech professional 

* you desire to ground in the deeper wisdom of your body in times of fascism, climate change and poly-crises 

You will learn:

 

how to listen to the stress, worry, anxiety, fear that you navigate in your body in these uncertain times---

how you can understand the wisdom they hold about your survival and your desires---

how you create the conditions that nurture your needs and deepest desires---

so that you can show up to uncertainty and stressful life situations with more capacity to be present with and shape what is changing, in alignment with your needs and desires. 

You will leave with:

 

  • You will transform the thread of stress/overwhelm/anxiety/fear/.. that you choose to work with in the beginning of the workshop, into an ally that is going to support you in who you are today and what you are trying to achieve
     
  • You will see yourself as a co-creator of your life who has agency to write your own scripts and narratives

  • You will connect to your body's and the earth's capacity to support your own healing

  • Instead of staying blocked in the overwhelm that comes up in the face of risk, change and uncertainty, you will start to get hopeful and excited to rise to the challenge and see more possibilities for yourself

    • You will learn to do this not by bypassing the hard stuff but by looking right at it, by creating the capacity for loving yourself through it all 

  • You will leave with your own map for how you can practice expanding into your presence under stress

Create with the world: embrace the power of shaping Change is a workshop where we will go on a journey of Transgressive Adaptation, through guided experiential practice and self coaching prompts, to nurture your inner wisdom.

I don't give advice on what you do, instead I facilitate transformative spaces where the prompts and practices are invitations to connect with the land and your inner guidance, to lead and explore from within.

What you'll get:

  • Four part pre-workshop orientation dripped via the course portal
  • Attend the 90 minute live online workshop on Oct 10, 2026 at 1pm Pacific time. On camera participation during is welcome and optional, there will always be ways to participate async via chat.
    • When you attend live, you'll have an opportunity to share your experiences and feel seen and heard in a supportive cohort of people practicing alongside you, whether on chat or on mic. 
  • Lifetime access to the recording and transcript uploaded 48 hours after the event through the course portal, whether or not you attend live
    • Even if you can't attend live, stay in touch with me and the cohort and ask questions and share your journey with us through the course portal
  • Transgressive Adaptation worksheet with inspiration and self-coaching prompts to tap into your inner wisdom in times of uncertainty and change
  • You will receive prompts for how you can integrate the learnings from the workshop into your own  life in ways that are accessible to you
  • You will also get optional resources and book recommendations to dive deeper
     

At the end of the workshop, I'll share an optional invitation to my upcoming transformative coaching offering.


I'm so excited to meet you and nurture our collective capacity for presence in these times along with you - Kadir 

 

"Heading into the workshop, I had a career goal of being promoted to senior engineer but I felt really unprepared and had little confidence in myself. This workshop was a huge breakthrough for me. I came out of it knowing how to ask for support, how to identify and vocalize my learning style and how to best work with my manager. Learning all these things helped build my confidence. I'm so grateful I had this opportunity and highly recommend it to others! — Keran Braich, participant in an earlier offering, "Confidence and Leadership skills for Software Engineers"

Sign up now for the live workshop on 10-10-2026 at 1:00pm Pacific Time, and lifetime access to replay and materials